Some men find a surrogate overseas, but this can be quite expensive. You cannot advertise for a surrogate or pay someone to find a surrogate for you. In Australia, commercial surrogacy is against the law, although you can pay a surrogate’s medical expenses. The surrogate can be someone you know, who may then be involved in the child’s life, or someone else. This can be done at home or in an overseas clinic. Partial or traditional surrogacy is when the surrogate’s own egg is fertilised by the man’s sperm. For legal reasons, this is the only type of surrogacy that many clinics in Australia will be involved in. The surrogate has no genetic connection to the baby. Full or gestational surrogacy is when a fertilised donor egg is implanted into a surrogate through in vitro fertilisation (IVF). These days, more same-sex male couples are creating their own families through surrogacy. Or a gay man can donate sperm to a single woman or same-sex female couple to have a baby. A gay couple may have a co-parenting arrangement with a lesbian couple. One or both of you may have children from a previous heterosexual relationship, or you may decide to adopt. For example, a bisexual man may have a baby with a heterosexual woman. Same-sex families can be created in many different ways.
